Jin Yu, a female journalist from a first tier city, married a bee farmer in Qinghai Province and worked as an e-commerce provider to help farmers. Recently, she wrote an article that she had been beaten severely for a long time and fled with a belt. How to treat the Tibetan area who married for love but suffered from domestic violence? An ge’an has three words to say:
① The law is always the support of the victims.
Freedom of love and marriage, love is like drinking water, we should not be more critical of personal choice. But the illegal activities that happen at home are also illegal. The anti domestic violence law of the people’s Republic of China has been implemented since March 2016. Marriage is not Utopia. When encountering domestic violence, we should have the courage to stop loss and the freedom to quit.
② China under the rule of law can not be without one.
As a kind of illegal behavior, domestic violence exists all over the world, which needs to be condemned, resisted, found, punished and rescued by all walks of life. The level of economic development and folk customs are not the “shield” of domestic violence. It is “domestic violence” that has been denounced, not the region or nationality.
③ It is the perpetrators, not the victims, who are always wrong.
How to avoid and get out of the “learned helplessness” of domestic violence victims in intimate relationship needs the help and consensus of the whole society. We can’t start blindly, but we shouldn’t deny all the good wishes of “poetry and distance”. It’s better to be keen and helpful than to laugh!
Finally, I want to say to every woman who lives bravely, please don’t give up the right to love yourself, you are worth everything!
Yesterday, the readme article “another” RAM “swiped the screen in the circle of friends.
The author Ma Jinyu is a media person who once worked in a first tier city. For love, she married far away to an isolated area in the west to have children. Keeping bees and flowers, a paradise like life, has been widely spread in the media industry. The reality is that in this process, she suffered from long-term domestic violence and abuse, and even, for the sake of her children, she had to choose forbearance.
In her autobiography another ram, she said:
In 2015, after a drunken time, he came back in the middle of the night and began to look for something to do with his friend (man). The beating suddenly started. My eyes suddenly blurred and my fist kept hitting my head. My hair was caught and I couldn’t move. I only heard the child crying and his father shouting: “look at your aunt!” The moment I was hit on the head, I was incontinent.
Until the morning, I didn’t know where I got so much blood from my clothes. I could still see it on my mobile phone. I didn’t call the police (maybe this is the most confused, I didn’t call the police once). The child was still asleep. I called the female worker Zhou Mao and said, I’m going to be killed
She took her husband with her to persuade the father. I went to Xining, Qinghai People’s Hospital dizzily with all kinds of injuries. The examination showed hematoma of eyeball and fracture of brow bone. Doctors need to inject drugs into their eyes and take drugs containing a lot of hormones to treat their eyes. Pregnant women are forbidden to take them. That’s when I found out that I had a third child
Now she has escaped from danger and is determined to face everything.
Persistent and frequent domestic violence is regarded as abuse
On December 30, 2020, the Supreme People’s Court issued the first batch of seven new judicial interpretations supporting the civil code. At the press conference, the relevant person in charge of the supreme law said that in the revision and formulation of the supporting judicial interpretation of the civil code, we should consider promoting the harmony and stability of marriage and family. At the same time, we should pay attention to the guidance, establish a good family education and family style, carry forward family virtues, and promote the construction of family civilization.
For example, on the basis of the anti domestic violence law, the persistent and regular domestic violence is identified as abuse, which reflects the distinct value orientation of “no” to domestic violence.
Recently, a family dinner party in Jidong County, Jixi City, Heilongjiang Province caused poisoning, killing eight people. Today (October 19), the Red Star News reporter learned from Mr. Zhang, the son of Ms. Li, the only survivor of “sour soup” poisoning in Jixi, Heilongjiang Province, that her mother had died at noon today. So far, all the 9 poisoned people in Jixi “sour soup” poisoning event have died.
On October 5, Wang Mou, a community resident in Xingnong Town, Jidong County, Jixi City, Heilongjiang Province, and nine of his relatives had a dinner at home. They ate homemade sour soup (a kind of coarse noodle staple food fermented by corn mill), which caused food poisoning.
It is reported that after local police investigation, it was found that the sour soup was made by the family members and had been frozen in the refrigerator for nearly a year. It was suspected that the food had caused food poisoning. After the local public security organs Criminal Technology Department on-site extract detection, ruled out the possibility of artificial poisoning.
Eight of the nine people who had been poisoned have died. Only Ms. Li, 47, who was treated in the Second Affiliated Hospital of Harbin Medical University, survived.
Wang Yuming, a veteran, is 72 years old. In the past two years, in order to find a person, he carried his luggage, walked more than 6000 kilometers and posted more than 20000 notices. He said that this man is the most important person in his life, and this man is his lost wife Yan Baoxia.
Wang Yuming wrote a letter to his wife, “dear Baoxia, where have you been in these two years? You must have suffered. We have been together for 50 years. You followed me from two thousand kilometers to Huixian and suffered.
When you were young, you worked in your hometown to take care of your children. We lived separately for more than ten years. In the first few years, I met once in a few years. Later, I met once in a year. Every year when I go, you send me with tears and say: you go! Help with the work! Come back next year and meet again; encourage me to say that we will meet again soon next year and one year will soon pass. We both lived as Cowherd and weaver girl. We were tortured when we were young. Now that we are old and the conditions are good, I said we will always be together and not separate.
Who knows that Alzheimer’s disease has killed you? Where are you? I owe you so much. When you come to the light, a kind-hearted person will send a letter, and your man Wang Yuming will take you home. “
Fifty years of firm waiting, fifty years of hand in hand with each other, the first half of life separated from each other, has left a separate regret. The second half of life is full of bitterness and happiness, but it can’t last forever.
Every step of the search for footprints, are pouring his full thoughts on his wife.
Baoxia, ends of the earth, your Wang Yuming will take you home.
72 year old soldier Wan Li looks for his wife
Recently, the news of “72 year old soldiers searching for wives in thousands of miles” touched many people. What’s the matter? What’s the reason for this rare veteran to search for wives in thousands of miles? The details of the incident are exposed at the beginning and the end, and the truth behind it is tearful. Let’s get to know.
Recently, a special person came to CCTV’s “waiting for me” program. His name is Wang Yuming. He is a veteran. Two years ago, his wife, Yan Baoxia, was lost due to Alzheimer’s disease and has not come back.
72 year old veteran, 700 days of searching, 20000 notices of looking for people, this group of words describes the veteran’s adherence to his wife. 50 years of firm waiting, 50 years of wind and rain accompanied, is Wang Yuming’s firm belief in his wife not to give up looking for.
At the end of the program that day, there was no shadow of Yan Baoxia’s wife behind the screen. Veteran Wang Yuming cried bitterly. He said that he lost his wife, and he would continue to look for his wife, because his wife was so good to him, how could he forget!
Wang lost his father when he was 10, and his mother died in 1965.
In the same year, he joined the army and met his wife Yan Baoxia in the army.
Later, the two began to communicate. Wang Yuming recalled that the fluffy clothes of his army had been worn out. Yan Baoxia took apart dozens of broken gloves and made a sweater for himself. Don’t worry how warm it was on his body at that time!
In 1969, I was very poor and couldn’t give my wife a decent wedding. I bought two washbasins, four towels, two mirrors and a basin of fruit candy for more than ten yuan in the army. That’s why I got married with my wife.
But shortly after getting married, Wang Yuming’s army asked to go to the front for standby, and his wife, Yan Baoxia, returned to Tangshan, Hebei Province.
In October 1971, Yan Baoxia went to see Wang Yuming with her own shoes. At that time, Wang Yuming was on a mission and was unable to pick up Yan Baoxia, so he asked the soldier to take his wife to the army reception office. His wife waited for 12 days.
On July 23, 1976, Wang Yuming returned to Yan Baoxia’s mother’s home from the army. Within a few days, there was a big earthquake in Tangshan. Yan Baoxia, who had escaped from the house at that time, returned to the house and woke up Wang Yuming, who was sleeping. Just after they came out, the beam of the house fell down and hit where Wang Yuming slept.
At that time, in order to save herself, her wife was also scratched on her leg by nails, leaving a deep scar on her leg.
In 1982, Wang Yuming was injured at work. His wife took her children to Gansu, where Wang Yuming worked, to take care of him. Usually sell some popsicles to maintain the family.
The two have survived the first half of their lives, but the good times are not long. In 2008, Yan Baoxia, his wife, was diagnosed with Alzheimer’s disease. He took good care of his wife for fear of any accident.
But the accident came. On January 25, 2018, Wang Yuming was washing his hands in the bathroom. Yan Baoxia, his wife, thought that her husband was not at home, she went out to look for him, and never came back.
Since then, Wang Yuming began to go out to find his wife. He carried the marching bag of the army, took his wife’s notices, rode a bicycle or walked to paste the notices. When he passed a place, he used the help of TV station to search.
Every day when I go to bed, I open my marching bag and go to sleep on the spot.
The search lasted for two years. In the past two years, we have traveled thousands of miles and sent more than 20000 notices to find people, but it has not been successful so far.
Wang Yuming said, “Baoxia, when you come to a bright place, let me take you home.” A simple words, said Wang Yuming’s heart.
In this dangerous world, danger can not be prevented. For example, birds and animals, robbers and thugs, terrorists… We all have to be on guard and learn to survive!
One day, one year, one month, there was only me at home. My mother went to the classmates’party, my grandmother rubbed mahjong, my father went to work, and my grandfather helped me to buy goldfish at the flower and bird market, leaving me at home alone. They locked the door from outside in order not to let me run out.
“Ring bell… Ring bell…” Someone rang the doorbell and made a crisp and melodious sound.
I ran to the door and shouted, “Who?” “Look up the water meter.” I wanted to see the man through the door, but I couldn’t reach him, so I moved a chair and saw it. The man who called himself the “water meter” was a man, wearing a disposable mask, the black cap on his head pressed right into his eyes, and he was wearing a black suit: black shirt, black trousers, black shoes. The key was that the man was holding a bundle of hemp ropes in his hand. The more I looked at it, the more strange it became to me that an aunt, wearing a blue cap, a blue ponycoat, had five big words “Guixiang Neighborhood Committee” printed on the jacket, and all the books in hand were pens. “The water meter is an aunt, who are you?” “So… That’s my mother. She twisted her waist yesterday. I’ll help her.” The strange man paused and said. I am quite familiar with the aunt who looks up the water meter. She knows that she only has a daughter and has married to Xiamen. Now the person outside must be a liar!
I was very adventurous when I was young, so I was not only not nervous, but also excited about how to fight against the cheater. “Oh, you are his son, no, aunt has only one daughter! Where did you come out?” The man looked tight and stammered slightly. “Is this her son? Right! Dry son!””Then how many calls do you have from my aunt? I haven’t got her yet? I’ll put you in again after you say that!”The stranger looks a little loose, as if he thought I could get in after the confusion. “Her phone number, no problem, 136970705263.” “No, my uncle, why is it a twelve-digit phone?” I asked intentionally, knowing that he was making up a mess and showing a flaw. “Maybe I remember it wrong, huh!” The man quickly found a reason with a fake smile. “Forget it. I’ll call my mother myself. She has it.” I quickly picked up my cell phone and turned it up to the maximum so that he could hear the dial tone. “Ouch” lasted eleven times, after dialing, I turned on the mute again, deleted the number, and then pretended to “call” the phone.
“Hello, Mom, what’s the number of the aunt looking up the water meter? She twisted her waist and I wanted to say hello to her.” “How do you ask me to know?” “Today, an uncle came to look up the water meter and said that his aunt’s stepson came to take her place. I would have asked him, but he was too confused to remember the phone wrong.” “What? Aunt didn’t have a son! He’s a liar!” The man listened to my one-man show, very guilty and worried, and had the impulse to escape. “I’ll call the police at once, bye-bye!” I said, pressed three times on my mobile phone and pretended to say, “Hello, the police uncle is coming to help me, there are bad people outside the door!” The stranger listened and thought nothing and ran away without a cigarette. “Sample, fight with me!” I am very proud and enjoy the pride of the winner.
Through this incident, I know the world’s dangers, dangers everywhere, always be on guard, have a sense of security, do not easily believe in people, meet danger calm, not panic, remember to call for help, learn survival skills and the ability to deal with danger.
As time goes by, more than ten years have passed in a twinkling of an eye. There are many words in my heart that I want to say to you.
First of all, I want to say a kind thank you to you. You have raised me for seven years. During these seven years, you always make my favorite dishes and buy me the most expensive clothes. You always say to me, “Sister! Look at how many hundred dollars your mom spent. Which parent would be so generous? You have to learn to be grateful.” Listening to this sentence, I always nodded slightly.
Mom, do you know? Those expensive things you bought, I can say, are not what I want, I want spiritual comfort, do not need material help.
Do you know that whenever I see other children sick, my mother will care about him and say, “No problem, just give them an injection and take some medicine!” Whenever I see those exams are not ideal, my mother will comfort him and say, “If you don’t do well in the next exam, just try your best!” Whenever I see others being bullied. Negative mom always says to him, “Who dares bully you next time, tell mom, mom will help you to reason!” Whenever I see others frustrated, my mother always says to him: “Everyone has to experience storms and storms, the old saying is good:”How can you see a rainbow without storms and storms? So, as long as you work hard, just pay. Every time I see a child’s birthday, I have my mother’s company and sincere wishes for him. I envy them very much. When I am sick, you don’t comfort me quietly. Instead, you scold me and say, “Look at you, every day, every injection costs tens of dollars.” When my exam is not good, you will always compare me with others and say, “You look like a ghost, and you want to go to high school with this score? No way. Look at other people, ninety or so!” Whenever I am bullied by others, you will always say, “Who calls you?” To provoke others! If you don’t provoke others, others will bully you? You deserve it.”Whenever I get frustrated and difficult, you always say to me,”Do your own thing!”
Whenever my birthday comes, you always forget that my brother reminds you, and there is no sincere blessing. Last year, my brother told you that I am today’s birthday, but you still did not bless me, did not accompany me, just for your own pleasure, just told my sister to buy the tickets of Hanlixuan, my brother and I. I was sad that there were only two people in the restaurant, my brother and I, and I had no appetite to eat. At that time, I thought to myself: Why? It’s not important for you to dance and eat on your annual birthday? Mom, do you know? I wish you could accompany me. My brother and I are really lonely at home. Every day when you come home from school, you are not at home, the family is cold, there is no such laughter, how I hope you can accompany me to eat! Mom, I hope you treat me as a normal person! Please look up to me, believe me! Finally, once again say thank you, I will always remember the grace of your upbringing!
That’s what I want to say to you, my dear mother!